Husband Won’t Talk About Problems – Answers to a Wife’s Common Complaint

A common complaint of wives is that their husbands won’t talk to them about problems. Save this Marriage suggests a different approach. More information is available on the the Save This Marriage website at https://tinyurl.com/wifeAMP.

Huntington Beach, United States – September 30, 2019 /PressCable/ —

A common complaint of wives is that their husbands won’t talk to them about problems. Often, relationship advisors suggest that wives talk to their men about issues and talk for as long as it takes to resolve them. Men don’t typically do that, nor do they appreciate it. A man sees that most women can talk with their moms, their sisters, or their girlfriends for hours and hours about their issues. But most husbands won’t be receptive to this kind of interaction. Men might be willing to talk for a while, but only a while. He won’t stay engaged for a talking marathon.

In fact, most men feel that a wife’s complaints about their relationship are just plain disrespectful. Women don’t see it this way, of course. They are actually paying their man a high compliment by sharing their feelings. But this is the language of women, not men.

Erick Jay, co-author with Katie Jay of multiple books on relationships says, “One of our clients, Sharon, would wait for her husband to come home and start talking to him the minute he walked in the door about her thoughts. She had been thinking about her husband all day, see? She had all these pent-up feelings about him and their relationship that were fairly bursting out of her.”

The Jays’ advice? If possible, both partners need to reassure each other that they love, need, admire, trust, and want the other. It could be that he can’t get into that space from where the partners are when the interaction begins. But a wife can assure her husband of her feelings and know that with the right actions and with enough time, things will become equal and loving.

Erick Jay goes on to describe Sharon’s plight, “For her husband’s part, he felt that he’d been working all day — for THEM — and he didn’t understand how Sharon could be so dissatisfied when he had put in all that effort to provide for them so they could have a good life together. Frankly, he felt ambushed when she approached him this way. He really just wanted dinner, a beer, and some TV after work. He also wanted to get a hug and a smile when he walked through the door, but these were things he wouldn’t admit to.”

Jay further describes how most men respond after feeling relaxed, loved, and appreciated. He says that most men would be up to hearing about a need their wife might have that isn’t being met — if stated in a loving way with respect for all he does and with a feeling that he’s admired. But he’s got to be in a very solid place to accept this kind of communication.

To make headway with a man — to change the dynamic — a wife needs to speak the language of her man. The language of her man is ACTIONS.

A few of the actions men might appreciate are making dinner, setting up circumstances for some fun, or giving him affection.

More information is available on the Save This Marriage website.

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Name: Katie
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Organization: Marriage Savers Media
Address: 9121 Atlanta Avenue 101, Huntington Beach, CA 92646, United States
Website: http://www.lovemasters.net

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